tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030999379275940934.post8942085088613201791..comments2011-01-25T09:20:22.646-08:00Comments on Pack of Three: Finding Home, Feeling at Home -- An Adult Adoptee's Painful StoryUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030999379275940934.post-83354766747505300962009-10-07T09:35:18.063-07:002009-10-07T09:35:18.063-07:00Hi Joan
I think you're right that the current ...Hi Joan<br />I think you're right that the current wisdom has changed and that adoptive parents today have learned from prior generations of adoptive parents and adoptees. These stories are hard to hear and I confess I worried about writing about something so bleak. But if Jen's story can help us help our children, it seems worth it. <br /><br />It does seem that its around the age of 7 and 8 that these issues come to the fore for our kids. My daughter really struggled last March and I wrote about it in the hopes of helping other parents learn from our experience. ( http://apackof3.blogspot.com/2009/03/warriors.html) The biggest thing I learned was how incredibly important it was for me to let her know she could feel safe telling me absolutely anything and that I understood and could imagine how much she was hurting. It was a difficult time, but it also seemed to help. She appeared to emerge even stronger. At least that's where we are currently. (I know these things are never static!)<br /><br />Wishing you and your family all the best.<br /><br />LisaLisa @ Pack of Threehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13092950371012127975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4030999379275940934.post-46626269784387795732009-10-07T06:49:37.965-07:002009-10-07T06:49:37.965-07:00I have not seen this movie yet but will one of the...I have not seen this movie yet but will one of these days. But, I feel there is a large group of parents that are more aware of the loss in adoption. My daughter is 7 and struggling with sadness and missing her foster family. She has never expressed the same for her birth family. I fear she has that buried. We have started counseling to help her learn how to express her feelings and to help me learn how to listen and encourage. I thought I was doing ok with that but just this week she said she couldn't tell me what was wrong. I kept working and found out it was her foster family sadness again. Maybe its more but we are working on it now so she isn't struggling more later. Or maybe she will always struggle with this but I will give her the tools to help her. Long Commet... but I have listened to many stories on adoption and believe that once we know better we do better and our kids will feel that.Joanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09169754262477383694noreply@blogger.com